The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful…
During these unprecedented times personally i find its best to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference to the isolated and the lonely as-well as being honestly with yourself that you have lived and lived well. It is not the length of life, but the depth.’
If being useful is the purpose of life, and our everyday actions are, largely, about striving to lead a purposeful existence–that is what we all want isn’t it; to lead a life that has meaning–then we must look inwards at how we can be useful to ourselves before we can look outwards.
By assessing our needs first we are, it goes without saying, doing ourselves a kindness.
Kindness to you is kindness to me, and kindness to me is kindness to you
Treating ourselves with kindness is at its core a way of respecting ourselves.
What better way to be respectful of ourselves–all we have been, presently are and will be–than to do things that are of use to us now and in preparation for our futures?
Why be useful to ourselves?
When we do things that are useful to us as individuals–say by taking ten minutes in the morning to mediate or creating tomorrow’s to-do list the night before–we feel productive, practical, supportive accomplished, of value, and perhaps even successful.
All feelings that make us feel fundamentally good about ourselves.
In other words, we have listened to and respected our needs and translated those into actions that will help us achieve the desired outcome.
We get a sense of fulfillment that, in turn, makes us happy.
Usefulness = Kindness
If, then, these useful actions make us feel good about ourselves is this not one way of being kind to ourselves?
And to take this one step further, if we can be useful to ourselves with the result being of a positive change or forwards motion in our circumstances, then surely usefulness is one of the very best ways of being kind to ourselves?
Being useful to ourselves individually can actually be the antidote to procrastination and self-destruction.
Each and every act we do that is of use to us in some way, no matter how big or small, translates to positive progression in our lives.
So, being useful to ourselves is being kind to ourselves, and brings us closer to leading a meaningful and purposeful life.
Give usefulness a go and see how much lighter you’ll feel. Be kind to yourself by being useful to yourself.